He’s the most positive person I know.
Me? Welp… I get there eventually, but I take a peek at the worst case scenario first.
His first response is always compassion.
Me? Well, most times. But sometimes I’m irritated for a minute.
He loves to dance.
Please don’t make me try to move my body like that!
Music is his jam.
Honestly? I never have music on.
He loves horror anything—books or movies or shows.
I’m horrified at anything horror.
He gets lost all the time.
I’m kind of epic with direction.
He is a workaholic.
I can settle in to rest at a moments notice.
His love language is touch and quality time.
Mine is affirmation and safety.
And yet, this is love.
“Love rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:6-8). In fact, read that whole passage. I can’t find anywhere in there where it says love has to look alike; has to be the same; has to agree at all times and carry the same opinion. I can’t find where it says love must have the same talents, desires, and abilities. I can’t find where love is defined as being only a receiver and never the giver. I can’t.
Because it’s not there.
What I can find is, that even though this man of mine and I have so many differences, we can rejoice with the truth. He’s created differently than me—and it’s worth rejoicing in.
So we can choose to protect one another; even in our thoughts, our attitudes, and hearts. We trust, hope, and persevere together even when, maybe especially when, we don’t agree, look the same, like the same thing, do things alike, or walk or believe a certain way.
Bob Goff, author of “Love Does,” said, “That’s the thing about love. It always assumes it can find a way to express itself. ” That’s honest. Let’s get that kind of honest with our partners, our spouses, our marriages today. As Bob also says, “Simply put, love does.”
Love looks for love.
Maybe the question is: What are you looking for?