Following the news these days, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed at the volume of tragedy and violence unfolding all around us. Like many, you may struggle to know what to do or how to respond. You may even experience a sense of spiritual restlessness as you feel each new wave of grief wash over you. You may wonder if God is even hearing our prayers.
Marnie Hammar is familiar with this feeling, and today she offers us three lessons from the Book of Nehemiah to help us process our grief and overcome spiritual restlessness through prayer and fasting until we are filled with the peace of the Holy Spirit. Until we have the strength to rebuild.
As I brown the beef, I offer up silent prayers. I back my car out for school pickup, and I offer still more. Despair and dismay stay close as I process the latest heartbreaking headlines.
The division and unrest hang in the back of my mind as I go through my day. A sense of spiritual restlessness plagues me.
Pick up groceries. Pray.
Help with homework. Pray.
Sometimes my small life seems so disconnected. What can I do?
I’m grieved; I feel helpless, and praying doesn’t feel like enough.
As I wrestle, I turn to Nehemiah and find in this book’s pages parallels of the grief I feel. Staring back at me from the first chapter is Nehemiah’s response to the destruction of his beloved Jerusalem. I feel hope. Perhaps, in my grief, there is much I can do.
A PURPOSE FOR GRIEF
I didn’t anticipate the deep connection I’d feel with the brokenness exposed in these verses. As I read with fresh eyes, I see God’s people in great trouble and shame. I see the mighty wall of Jerusalem broken down and its gates destroyed by fire (Nehemiah 1:3). As I read I feel it, and I understood Nehemiah’s heartbreak.
Aren’t we, too, in great trouble and despair?
Our walls of strength and unity, aren’t they also broken?
Aren’t the cinders smoldering as fires of hatred, blame, and conflict still burn at our gates?
Doesn’t it seem there are crumbled pieces of what once felt strong lying everywhere?
I follow the lines to Nehemiah’s response. “As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days” (Nehemiah 1:4a).
How many times have I sat down to weep this year? And how often have I felt shock and sadness and confusion? Do you feel this too?
Nehemiah’s response makes room for my own grief. He felt it deeply, because even from a distance he was part of it. As are we. Our grief has a purpose, no matter how close or far we are from the broken.
FROM GRIEF TO PRAYER
What I do with the grief is the turning point. Nehemiah moves from his grief to his God. “As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days, and I continued fasting and praying before the God of heaven” (Nehemiah 1:4).
That sense I had that praying didn’t feel like enough?
As tragedy and violence unfold in our country, I confess that my short prayers from carpool have not settled me. Perhaps that’s because the kind of praying I was doing actually wasn’t enough—not because He demands more of me, but because He has more for me.
Yes, God honors those prayers and works through them, certainly. But when I seek Him with more intention and focus, He will give me more of Himself. The way Nehemiah deliberately turns to God ushers him from spiritual restlessness into a deeper connection than I experience in my on-the-go prayers.
OVERCOMING SPIRITUAL RESTLESSNESS
As cupbearer to King Artaxerxes, Nehemiah had the complete trust of the king. But in his grief and mourning, he didn’t just offer up those on-the-go prayers as he ran to the king. Instead, he drew close to the power of our God. Nehemiah chose to pause with God, not as a back-up plan, but as his first choice.
In my grief, I too, need to move toward God. That’s where my feeling of helplessness is transformed. We are promised God is near us in our grief and mourning. “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).
God meets us in our grief. When we draw near to Him, He is faithful to draw near to us.
MEETING WITH GOD
Throughout Scripture, God’s people chose fasting and praying to meet with God in preparation for what He had next for them.
Moses, before he receives the commandments. Ezra, before he leads God’s people back to Jerusalem. Esther, before she saves her people. Daniel, before he is set apart in Babylon. Jesus, before He is tempted by the enemy. Each paused to fast and pray before something significant.
Perhaps, then, in this present time of distress and division, this kind of praying is not the least, but the most I can do?
FROM PRAYER TO PEACE
These pages in Nehemiah speak reminders I know in my heart. In my unrest, I must pursue His rest. If I don’t have peace, I must seek my King.
Of course I know and believe He’s at work in all things. I know His plans stand firm forever, but if I don’t have peace, I haven’t joined Him where He is. The supernatural peace He offers does not always come after I pray a few sentences, however heartfelt they are.
Have I prayed for my country, my president, my leaders, my pastor?
Do I lift up those who carry hurt and hatred in their hearts? Those I may not agree with?
Have I confessed my own sins?
Do I pray for deliverance? For restoration?
FROM SPIRITUAL RESTLESSNESS TO SUPERNATURAL PEACE
When I turn to prayer, God offers me the supernatural peace that comes through connection with His Spirit—even in times of confusion and grief. When I empty my burdens to Him, I am filled with Him.
Nehemiah emerged from his time of fasting and praying with peace and a resolve to rebuild. God’s blessing followed every step and decision, leading to the miraculous rebuilding of a new wall in just 52 days.
With God, what’s been broken can be restored.
May we not underutilize the potential of God’s power unlocked through fasting, prayer, and intentionally meeting with Him. This work to rebuild here and now is not yet finished. Let us go to our King, for we are His cupbearers too. May we enter boldly before His throne of grace.
“Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16, NJKV).
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“Of course I know and believe that He’s at work in all things—that His plans stand firm forever—but if I don’t have peace, I haven’t joined Him where He is… With God, what’s been broken can be rebuilt and restored.”
This is so good…and exactly the truth and reminder I needed to read this morning. Thank you for the reminder that it’s not in the outcome that we find our peace in circumstances—sometimes the outcome doesn’t change, but it’s in drawing closer to the Lord that we find our peace, even amidst the circumstances. When we draw closer to Him—we hear Him and we hear His direction—and what a beautiful thing that is to be able to act and move in confidence of what God is calling us to do.
To draw ever closer to Him, to hear Him, and then to be able to act and move in confidence of what God is calling us to do — this is my prayer, over and over and over, Sandi. How Nehemiah stood firm and unshaken in the face of continued unrest will always serve as a reminder to me to trust that God will step into and take over the battles we face. He will. Thankful to serve Him together with you, Sandi.
This line hit me right between the eyes, “What I do with the grief is the turning point.” So often in grief, our circumstance feels like something God has done to us. Reframing this into an opportunity to build and fortify our relationship with Him is a game-changer. Thank you for your wise words!
Lori Ann, that sentence spoke to my own heart this morning. It is a big shift, isn’t it, to take our grief and lay it at His feet? Even as we ache? But Nehemiah shows us that turning grief to prayer is a powerful first step, even when it might not feel enough. Thank you for the sweet encouragement, too, that we can indeed continue reframing our thinking. He has so much to teach us, doesn’t He? Much love to you.
I’ve almost been afraid to face the fact that things do seem so very broken and not like before – maybe to a point of no return. And I feel grief, but I also feel fear. And what is that all about for a Christ-follower? (and I don’t really love fasting!) So, thank you, Marnie, for tackling this grievous topic, giving tools to cope with assurance and faith, and reminding us that this is not new for God. I will go reread Nehemiah.
Sue, it’s an open wound, isn’t it? So much pain and grief. I so agree with you, that it’s a comfort to read these pages of Nehemiah, to see how God works in the broken. One of my favorite verses: “wherever you hear the trumpet sound, join us there; our God will fight with us,” (Nehemiah 4:20). What comfort and peace He offers.